How to Gossip
I could just end this post here and have said quite enough.
I think gossiping is one of the most neglected out of the sins besides anger, jealousy and covetousness.
I walked into a room just the other day and immediately heard someone attacking a newer member of the group by spreading gossip like why was that person even here, etc. etc. Despite sticking up for that person and not joining in, I felt somewhat appalled at how they were treating this person they knew nothing about and had been nothing but nice to them since the beginning. I knew of a few of the problems that person was going through, and through the disgust of how they gossiped about this person, I also felt dirty.
How many times did I do this? How many times did I not know the story or want to know the story just to talk badly about someone else like that was going to lift me to some high and righteous position? I heard a phrase just the other day and as hilarious as it was, it also came to mind when I thought of how prideful we become when we stoop to gossip and compare our lives to that person we throw under the bus. "Do you need some sugar for that high horse of yours?" I immediately need that humbling as I look to pride and harmful words to feel good about myself if I've been knocked down a peg. It can even stem out of other feelings like anger.
When you are angry at someone, especially if you aren't in the power to do much else, you typically will want to talk about it. What would be better than letting everyone else know how horrible that person really is? Or maybe even adding some embellishments to that story? Gossiping could stem from jealousy for much of the same reason. Someone doesn't get their way and gets jealous and tries to tarnish your reputation by spreading nasty lies about you or trying to assume some fact that hasn't been fully checked out yet.
The point is that gossiping can often be overlooked as just "talking" or any other kind of excuse you can make for it. It's not cool; it's not healthy; it's not Christlike.
Stop doing it. I know it's hard and I struggle with it everyday, particularly when I'm mad about something. But it isn't fair when I take my own insecurities, jealousy, anger, or own injustice out on someone else as acting like my "revenge".
9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. 1 Peter 3:9 15 Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else. 1 Thessalonians 5:15
Instead of tearing each other down, especially since so much of this world is concerned with the injustice of hatred while hating others, just try encouraging one another instead. And when I'm guilty of this, call me out on it. I guarantee I won't hate you for it. You'll be helping your own spiritual walk as well as your friends and whoever is watching. Goodness is noticed-even when the world seems so black. Try to make a difference in every action that you do-always striving to be more like Christ.
11 Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice! Strive for full restoration, encourage one another, be of one mind, live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11
Whomever is reading this, you are much loved and I want to encourage you in whatever your next goal is. You will achieve it and if I can help you in any way-or pray for you if you want to remain anonymous about it, just let me know.